There are babies who cry for everything, some when they turn 2 or 3 months old calm down and others continue all their lives the same. They are children and babies who cry for anything, it seems that everything bothers them, continually claim our attention. That’s what we call a crying child.
In many cases the constant whining, ends up turning into tantrum, and comes to despair many mothers. The best thing we can do is to stay calm, try to understand the child and calm him. Know if your crying has emotional or physical causes. About this and other issues we will talk in this article.
Physical and emotional factors that influence the child crying
If a child is a cry, he cries for anything, it is almost always for physical or emotional causes. The first are easier to identify:
- The child is sleepy and tired.
- Incubation period of any disease, or physical pain.
- Hungeralso provokes this reaction of tantrum and crying.
Emotional and affective causes are more complicated to detect, some of them are:
- For situations that outweigh the child when he explores the world. For example, the child may feel rage at not being able to climb the stairs, when he barely stays on his feet.
- Lack of stimuli due to superprotection. The child does not have the necessary stimuli so that he can explore and acquire skills that will lead him to overcome obstacles.
- Lack of attention. The child cries to get the attention that parents give him and meet his emotional needs.
Differences between the tantrums and the child crying for everything
On other occasions we have talked about tantrums in boys and girls. Sometimes we confuse the tantrum with the all-asking child crying. With the tantrum, the child does or does try to impose himself or to achieve something he had previously been denied. It can occur before adults or other children, but with the presence of adults. This crying has a very high volume and intensity, and can be accompanied by pataletas on the ground.
When a child is weeping and cries for everything, crying is much less intense. It is associated with almost any communication or request for care of the child, It is shown in communication with adults, and with other children. They are boys and girls who between 24 and 30 months have not replaced baby crying with language as a more complex form of communication.
This replacement occurs gradually, because crying remains, for some time, the fundamental way of expressing the child’s primary needs. What happens, with these children, is that they do not manage to use language to express their new secondary needs.
What can you do with a weeping child?
We can give you a recommendation, or trick, that is usually very effective for children who cry about everything. When the child is crying, don’t heed what he says, explain to him that he is not understood what he says because he is crying. Ask him to tell you what he wants without crying, Children learn very easily, when he does, act in correspondence with what he says or wants. Soon the child will stop crying for everything and will learn to express himself not from crying.
The purpose of a child to stop crying is to improve the control of his emotions, not to become immune to them. We should not be angry with a crying child, but understand that he may be having a bad time, and accompany him. Hugs are the hand of saint. Sometimes children go into a spiral of bad mood, for no apparent cause. To interrupt it we can change the context, invent a game to distract you, put music and bring up good humor again.
Remember that crying has an important communicative function of affectivity in people, it helps us to unload emotions and in this sense decreases suffering. Also in children.