What happens if your child is not involved in household chores? You punish him, yell at him from the other room, end up doing homework? On several occasions we’ve given you some tips for your children to collaborate on household chores, and we’ve told you how important it is to them, and for the family’s own balance to do it. However, there are times when this does not happen, and we want to advise you what to do then.
Teenagers seem to be the ones who are most disengaged in these tasks. But this attitude can also help other family members to contribute either, and it will be harder to convince your children to do so.
Strategies for your child to get involved in home care
According to the OECD, Organisation for Economic Cooperation and Development, men in Spain spend 105 minutes less a day than women to domestic chores and family care. This inequality extends to other members of the family and to the consideration of a child.
One of the strategies that serves to let everyone know what to do is to share household chores among all family members. I mean everyone. Hanging a calendar and it is in sight always works, no one will be able to not do what it is up to you. To share these tasks you can do it every week, periodically or always assign the same task to a manager.
Ideally, everyone chooses, but if this is not the case you will have to assign the tasks yourself. The first thing that is recommended is that they are tasks on their own belongings, even the smallest can lend a hand. It’s important to talk to your children explaining that you also have other responsibilities other than home.
What to do if they are not involved in tasks?
Sometimes, as mothers, we take the responsibility of doing things ourselves, because to end sooner, not to have dislikes, or simply because we think it is part of our task. To incorporate the child into household chores it is important to know his degree of maturity, if we ask them tasks that they can not perform, they will fail, if on the contrary they can do it and they come out successful we will be taking care of their self-esteem.
We must have patience. We have to teach them how things are done directly. Wrong is part of learning. It’s important that we correct him without screaming, no reproaches. Any breakthrough must have a positive reinforcement, for example, you can tell him, see? Now that we’ve all picked up, we can go for a walk. Thank you for helping.
If you have not done your household homework, it is best to see that your attitude has negative consequences. For example, you will not have a clean shirt, if you have not put it in the laundry basket, you will not find your favorite toy if you still lie under the sofa, or the kitchen will smell bad if you have not thrown out the trash.
Teens who don’t take care of things at home
Adolescence implies rebellion, and one way of manifesting this is not by doing the household chores assigned to it. Almost always these tasks have to do with his own room, or his clothes, so the teenager thinks he may not do them because it has no repercussions on others.
The advice we give you, and we think smarter is not to force them to do something for now. It is better to agree with them, that they decide when they want to do it, make the bed after returning from the institute, clean once a week, for example. And we tie our hands behind our back and not do it.
If they violate their own word, it is better not to get angry and throw your head. Instead of punishing them, it is more effective to stop doing something that he or she directly hurt. For example, do not recharge your phone, or not wash that shirt you want to wear to date with friends.
And if these tips don’t help your kids take sides for household chores, you can use apps and new technologies to motivate them. There are a lot of applications that will help you organize, we recommend three Merge- Couple Organizer, OurHome, or Habitica, you have to adapt and get them involved!