It is one of the many consultations that appear in the first appointments with the pediatrician, especially if it is first time parents. My baby spider my face, what do I do?
It is common to see that babies scratch other people’s face , especially their mother’s face, even scratching their own faces without even noticing it. Is it normal? Do we have to worry? In this post we tell you why it happens and what to do when a baby spiders the face.
The first thing I’m going to tell you is very simple: don’t worry. This behavior is very common and is not at all serious. Newborn babies have sharp nails and with them they can scratch someone else’s face or even their own face. At this first stage, a scratch is something natural and, above all, very frequent.
Now it also happens that, as they grow up, there are mothers who complain: “My baby spiders my face.” Here we are not talking about babies who scratch without even noticing it, but about children who do it with intent although, of course, not with full consciousness. Why are there scratching babies?
At certain stages of a baby’s life, scratches are again part of everyday life and there are different reasons or reasons why they do so. There are children who scratch to defend themselves and others to express their frustration. In other cases, scratches on the face are an attempt to attract the attention of parents or responsible. It may also happen that children scratch to get attention in relation to a toy or to be heard and looked at.
What is clear is that when a baby spider intentionally is trying to communicate something. “My baby spiders my face“, some mothers express worried, without understanding that it is an act of communication that seeks to express an emotion. If we identify the reason why our little scratch is most likely we will manage to correct the behavior. Understanding the nature of your behavior will help to find a way to correct behavior.
Scratches on the face, a behavior to correct
Scratching is an exploratory behavior that can be linked to biting and gluing. They are common in children between 12 and 36 months and can happen with both adults and peers, especially when they start to day care. While this type of behavior is part of child development, it is also important to warn these behaviors to correct them as soon as possible by offering alternative options for expressing emotions.
Scratching babies should not be punished, it is important to act firmly but avoid being severe because it is a stage in which children are learning to regulate their emotions and aggressive behaviors are part of the natural development process. Responsible adults are moderlos or referents and that is why it is important to react empathically although with limits.
Never return the scratch because the baby who spiders will only understand that violence is the resource to manage emotions. Nor should we smile or joke because we would be giving the wrong message. Remember that there are no bad children but inadequate behaviors so it is important not to adjectivate with words like “bad” but simply correct behavior with a simple explanation so as not to affect their self-esteem under construction. Ideally, do it as well as the scratch happens but taking the child to a secluded and quiet place, talking without screaming but vehemently.
Babies who scratch the face will not forever. Both this habit and the habit of biting or gluing can last up to 3 or 4 years of age, but the most common is that it disappears as children mature and improve their language and communication, when they find other channels to express their emotions.