We know that setting rules is a way of educationally directing a coexistence and a behavior that we all must comply equally. The rules will be applied depending on the child’s personality, needs and age and imposing them will be a matter of the criterion of each family.
To teach home rules to children there are always different and various tools that can be applieddepending on the lifestyle of each house. It is necessary to make them understand that their attitudes to various skates must be corrected and make them understand that no one is more than anyone else.
How should house rules be brought to children?
Socialization is another important part in the education of our children, many children act by imitation, whether having older siblings or being surrounded by peers.
Rules imposed at home is another part to help their social development:
- The boundaries andrules that are established at home must be imposed by all parentsof home. Everyone has to agree, including those who subsequently accidentally take care of the child. This way you will also discover and see what it is to have limitations with each person and thus help you develop your personality.
- Punishments if imposed must be carried out by all parents alike. Hence, then there are conflicts where the mother or father is more persevering in imposing the rules, while the other person is more passive in imposing them.
- The messages to be transmitted must be specific that specify with criterion what we want to transmit. You can’t order a “do it right” but we specify that is that good what they have to do.
- The authority figure has to be firm and messages must be transmitted with tranquility and education. Messages can be given with love, but always maintaining seriousness and very concretely it has to be implied that the rule imposed is not negotiable.
- We must set an example in the rules we impose. It is of no use to see us behave incorrectly, aggressively or to skip the rules when we please.
- A quiet atmosphere at home is important. A home full of stress, nervousness, screaming and with untolerant and uneducated attitudes leads to you not being in a quiet home and therefore you will not find respect.
- If punishment is used, it must be used correctly. The first thing is that the child must learn that punishment will be imposed if a rule is not met and above all it must be noted that physical and verbal violence can be used. Nor can we express our anger and put ourselves up to the child at the level of a discussion. Nor should we punish them for no reason and do it because we feel like it.
- Do not give in to impositions. If we give in to our decisions, we get used to them being frustrated not to get what they want. That leads them to not being able to control their anger. That is why decisions must be firm in order for the child to expect a concrete response.
- You can always give alternatives and negotiate. This does not mean giving in, it is simply to consider that we can be flexible to any request by the child in an educated way and that of the guarantee that is understanding that covenant.
In conclusion, a home without limits leads to children not having such a sense of security. It is important for the child to observe his limitations and have an authority figure, in this way he will feel protected.