The age at which a boy or girl has his first mobile is a decision of the parents. As well as the time you are allowed to use it or the function that it must fulfill. The reality is that experts and parents do not agree, neither with each other nor with the others,. This situation is aggravated when it comes to separate parents who want their children to have their own mobile, skipping the call through the mother or parents.
Although the appropriate age for a first mobile, according to experts is 16 years old, few teens keep it. Statistic says that half of children at 11 years already have their own telephone, which increases to 75% for those aged twelve, and at 14 years is already 90 percent.
How do I know if my child is ready for his first cell phone?
It is clear that every child is different, both in his development, and in his circumstances. It also depends on the reason why the child asks for the phone, it will be more logical or not to give it away. It is important to ask the child what he needs the mobile for. It should be the child who answers what is the need he or she will satisfy, which may be different from that of the parents. A child may want the mobile only to play, while his parents expect him to pick up the phone.
What experts and parents do seem to agree is that they should be the ones who give the child their first mobile phone, and not relatives or friends. Parents should talk to their children and explain to them that having a mobile means responsibilities.
One of the things that parents should assess is the level of autonomy of the child when it comes to studying, taking care of their things, hygiene and feeding, if ordered. Children with this profile will be more difficult to succumb to the hitch of the mobile phone. Which is the great concern of parents.
Am I ready for my son to have his first cell phone?
Parents, especially mothers, need to do self-criticism and know if we are ready for our children to have their first mobile. We cannot demand that they not use it on the table, or not to be hooked with their friends, if we ourselves do not set an example.
It should be clear from the outset that the fact that the child has mobile means also respecting his or her privacy. In order not to be assaulted by fears, you will have to deal with the boy or girl issues such as intimacy or respect. It is important that you set up the device with them, the access that are restricted, the parental control filters you include, and not negotiate them. At the same time these controls will allow you to control which applications are downloaded and the profiles on social networks they have. On the other hand, it assumes that children know more and learn faster to use technology, so it is better to have them as allies. Control without pressure.
We touched the topic above the separated parents, that he or she gives a mobile phone to the boy or girl “to be connected and be able to call you whenever he wants.” In some cases this measure is not even agreed with the other parent. Respect your child’s times with their father or mother, do not call them continuously during the weekend to ask him how he is doing, and especially (in normal cases) do not panic if he does not respond immediately.
What cell phone do I buy for my son?
One of the mistakes that mothers usually fall is giving the child the phone we no longer use. Watch, you may have photos, phones or conversations that we don’t know how they reappear. If you are going to do this, make sure you erase all the data well and reset your phone.
Another tip is that you do not succumb to the model that the child asks you, which will be, almost certainly the latest model. A child does not need a cell phone for 800 euros, having it will only cause conflict. In second-hand stores, or others there are special mobiles for children, by their size, with a screen less than 5 inches, and resistance. He’s going to have to put up with more blows than an adult’s.
In general, children make passive use of mobile phones, this is what they use to consume content, watch YouTube videos or play games. Then they become active subjects and create their contents and videos. They hardly ever think about the value of talking on the phone. And if you don’t try giving your child a phone that only receives and sends calls.