Good intentions are necessary to educate the children. It is a way to prevent them from behaving negatively by letting them commit to a good deed before the refusal occurs. In this regard, to avoid bad behavior you have to ask for good intentions from your children and they will cooperate to have good behavior.
Speaking in practical terms, when we ask for a child’s good intentions, we will have to collect them first by kindly facing with a smile and a kind voice, then focusing on what they are serving or helping them with something. When we feel that we have your attention, we can direct them towards realistic goals and work in anticipation of problems.
We can attract the child with their good intentions and identify how we would like them to act, rather than focus on their failures and bad deeds. We can also support and encourage a child when faced with challenges to fulfill their intentions. It is one thing to form an intention and another thing to be able to achieve it.
Even as adults we make intentions that are hard for us to realize: this is only part of being human. What matters is how we deal with the internal conflict that arises between our goals and the impediments we face to achieve them.
When we side with a child and seek their agreement to point in a particular direction, we help them realize that it is natural to struggle with conflicting thoughts and feelings. It may seem small and insignificant to apply for a child’s intentions today, but this is how a child begins to realize that he can direct his own behavior and reach his human potential.
So from now on, before you foresee a stressful situation like kids don’t want to leave their little friend’s house, the park or get out of the pool when it’s time to get into the house… Ask for your good intentions before that happens, and tell them something like, “We’ll be in the pool for half an hour, then you will have to leave to enter the house, can I count on you on this?”